Wednesday, December 2, 2015

The Power of Meals

Food—delicious and powerful. The other day, I met with my friend Gregory. We had a meal together, and the topic of the day was food. I wanted to learn all about his favorite dishes—what he liked, disliked, how it differed from America, and what he ate at the BLUU in comparison to his home in Venezuela. In addition, I answered all of these questions for him. I am travelling abroad next semester, so practicing having conversations with another from a different country and culture will be valuable for my trip across seas next semester.
            Gregory’s favorite food of all time resembles a pork sandwich that we have here at most barbeque restaurants. There are a few differences, however, because Venezuelan pork has different spices. It was a real joy watching him talk about something he loved. While Gregory’s English is good, when he finds a topic he is passionate about, he speaks about it with great detail and vigor. What stood out the most to me was not the actual make up of the meal but more the description of the atmosphere with the meal. He explained that when this meal is made, it is not one person cooking for an hour, then inviting everyone in to eat dinner. His favorite part of the meal is the fact that the entire family is involved. I learned that during this process, each member talks and shares what is going on in their lives while cooking the meat. This contrasts to a lot of meals I have at my house. Yes, my family all eats at the same time, but the entire cooking process includes only my mom. I realized that I had been missing out on hours of possible good times with my mother. Gregory pushed me to, over thanksgiving break, choose to cook with my mom instead of let her do it all. To my surprise, I absolutely enjoyed it!
            While I do not really enjoy the actual act of cooking, I was blown away by the conversation and connectedness I had with my mom. This is exactly how Gregory explained it. He said that the entire family will join in on the cooking of the meal, wanting to be together to share stories. He emphasized how important food and meals are to his family, saying how it is a time where all can come together and share a common love for delicious pork sandwiches.
            The conversation rotated to the BLUU food, and this surprised me as well. When you talk to a freshman or sophomore about the BLUU, almost every time you hear how disgusting the food is or how little variety there is in the meals. While I may agree with this, I loved what Gregory had to say about the BLUU. He explained that it is the one place where he can see multiple friends and have similar experiences to those he had with his family back home. A handful of students can pick their meal together and sit for 30 minutes, asking questions and learning about each other’s days and lives.

            I can resonate with this, because this year I live off campus. I do not have a meal plan; therefore, I rarely go to the BLUU to eat food. It is amazing how many people you don’t see by not having a meal plan. I recommended Gregory keep his meal plan, even if in the future he might not be enjoying the food as much as he is now. The relationships that are formed over meals are incredible and deep. I love what meals do to people, and I always encourage people to put their phones away at dinner. Gregory and I do this—we take the time to dive into each other and truly try to understand each other. Meals are my favorite ways to get to know somebody, and I think it says a lot that Gregory’s culture back home takes this seriously.

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